Why am I doing this to my kids...

Written by Mohamed Rida Beshir

Our behaviour toward our children can be easily categorized into positive and negative parental behaviours. Positive parental behaviour is every act a parent does that helps their child to feel good about herself and her identity as a Muslim and, as such, it makes her proud of who she is and brings her closer to Islam. On the other hand, negative parental behaviour is every conduct a parent does that results in ...

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Marriage in the Qur’an

Written by Shahina Siddiqui

The fact that we come from the same soul signifies our equality as humans. Therefore, when the essence of our creation is the same, the argument of which gender is better or greater is redundant. The fact that Allah SWT stresses on this fact, and then mentions the institution of marriage in the same verse in the Qur'an is of great significance for those of us who are in the field of marriage counseling...

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Paradise in Our Homes

Written by Mohamed Rida Beshir

There is no doubt that the ultimate goal of every Muslim is to be admitted to Paradise (جنة الخلد). However, do we really know what Paradise is? Do we know what to do to achieve it? And above all, can we achieve Paradise in our earthly life (دنيا), particularly in our homes? To answer these questions, one has to look at the main sources of information in Islam. These are the Qur’an and Sunnah, ...

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Case Study: Growing Apart

Written by Ekram Beshir and Mohamed Rida Beshir

Zahida and Tarek have been married for four years and they have a son, Ali, who is one year old. Zahida is very concerned about her family, she feels that her relationship with Tarek is not at the level where it should be. Zahida feels that her and her husband are growing apart. Before Zahida and Tarek got married, they spent a lot of time planning their life. They discussed ...

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Where do you Fall on the Spect...

Written by Mohamed Rida Beshir

Every mom and dad has a parenting style based on his or her personality type, background and experience. Experts say that there are four styles of parenting: permissive, free-reigning, authoritarian, and controlling. These styles each have their strengths and weaknesses, but in general, they either build self- esteem or tear it down. The fifth style is the ideal one. It is nurturing and setting limits...

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The Positive and Negative C’s ...

Written by Shahina Siddiqui

One of the greatest challenges a Muslim will ever face is being a parent. This is one challenge, however, many of us are very unprepared for. Allah tells us in the Quran that our children are our trial and as such we should take the task of parenting seriously, and start learning from each other. In my experience in dealing with my own family and counseling other Muslim families, a model has developed based on...

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